Did your trust for each other evaporate in the first year when you fought all the time and never agreed on anything, got mad at each other and went to separate rooms to cool off but never said you were sorry or you were wrong?
Christian young married couples are struggling with unresolved conflict that has caused them to withdraw from each other into isolation and loneliness so one or both are unhappy and questioning their decision to marry the other.
Do you realize that unresolved conflict is destroying your marriage? Research results show that 90% of divorces are caused by Unresolved Conflict (arguments that go bad). Do you feel like you are not being heard? Do you talk but you are never understand?
The biggest challenge is not having enough Undivided Attention time together to resolve their conflicts and to reignite their romance. Even if they found the Undivided Attention time, they have no clue in how to resolve their conflicts and to reignite their romance God’s way and need some help.
To most couples, marriage to their soul mate is the perfect dream and they want their marriage to thrive. But they expect marriage to be easy and put very little effort into making it work. Selfishness by both the husband and the wife is the primary reason for failure. The problem is they underestimate the complexity of bonding two different persons into one person, emotionally, spiritually and physically.
They come into marriage as two very efficient, independent decision-making singles who are not willing to make the radical changes in scheduled priorities, beliefs, behaviors, preferences, as commanded by God, to become “one flesh” (one person).
They avoid training in God’s design for marriage and implement the bad training learned from observing their divorced parents. They are like a person who cannot swim who jumps into the deep end of the pool, drowns and cannot understand why they died. The reason is that they were never trained in how to swim. So if you cannot swim and jump into the deep end of the pool and expect to survive, you are going to be surprised because you are going to die. Same with marriage. If you jump into the most complex relationship with no training in God’s design for marriage (God invented marriage so His instructions work), then your marriage will fail and your family will die.