Academy Requirements for Eligibility are:
1. Both of you are married.
2. Both of you are Christians.
3. Your marriage is less than 8 years old.
4. One or both of you are struggling in your marriage.
5. Your struggles are causing withdrawal and isolation from each other.
6. Neither of you have made an Exit Decision (given up, stop trying, leaving eventually).
7. Both of you desire for your marriage to be successful.
8. Both of you are willing to give your best efforts, your best energy, your best time and your best resources to complete all of the activities and trainings of the Academy, especially communication and conflict resolution.
9. Both of you are willing to give your best efforts, your best energy, your best time and your best resources to behave towards each other with 1 Corinthians 13 agape love during the Academy.
10. Both of you will make the 3 Priority Relationships, Christ, each other, your children, a priority in both quantity and quality time during the Academy.
11. Both of you desire to be transformed by the renewing of your mind into the mind of Christ so that you can know His Perfect Will.
12. Your marriage falls into one or more of the following types of marriages: Blended Marriage, Second Marriage, Children 0, Children 1, Children 2, Children 3+, Infertility or Miscarriage Experience.
13. Both of you desire to be a part of a Community Group of 5 other Christian young couples and a Christian Coaching Couple for support and encouragement during the Academy.
14. Both of you live in the United States and speak English.
15. I wanted to target first this group of Christian Gen Z-Millennial Married Couples married less than 8 years because they have the best chance for success (reversing withdrawal and reigniting romance).
16. Why? Implementing God’s design for marriage effectively requires that you believe in Jesus Christ. As Christians, they have the power of the Holy Spirit to resist sin and the desire to follow and obey Jesus Christ to love sacrificially, unconditionally, grant grace and forgiveness, pursue servant leadership, be unselfish, and many more.
17. Neither spouse has made an Exit Decision.
18. Both spouses are willing to make the mutual decision to make radical changes in their your methods, styles, beliefs, preferences, personality, career, past history, habits, wounds, fears, pleasures, dreams, passions, friends as God’s designed them for marriage.
19. By marrying, God commanded and you vowed to become “one person”. But your current trend is toward Withdrawal from each other and Radical Changes in both of you are critical in starting the process of reversing the Withdrawal and Reigniting Emotional Spiritual Physical Intimacy toward becoming “one person”.
20. Both of you need to stop being selfish and start becoming unselfish and a servant to the 3 priority relationships: Christ, Spouse, Children. You both need to stop being selfish, self-centered, self-justifying, pleasure seeking, victim mentality, pain avoiding focused on yourself only.
21. An Example. For example, are you in a dominant/passive personality marriage? If you are the “passive” personality who gives in on every disagreement because your “dominant” sole mate is always “right” because his opinion is the “truth”, then you both need to Radically Change to start making every decision mutually where you don’t move forward until both are enthusiastically happy about the decision. John Trent in his book, The Treasure Tree, teaches that the dominant personality must become softer and the passive personality needs to become stronger towards each other.